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Writer's pictureAlina Apostol

LETTING GO IT'S NOT ABOUT LOSING - IT'S ABOUT CHOOSING YOURSELF

NEW MOON SOLAR ECLIPSE, 10 DEG. LIBRA


On October 2nd, 2024, we encounter the final Solar Eclipse in Libra of this nodal cycle — a moment that symbolizes the end of a eighteen months journey, urging us to shed unhealthy patterns and reclaim our sense of equilibrium. While eclipses often signify turning points, they do not push us into sudden decisions or transformations. Instead, they reveal where we’ve been stuck, holding on to what drains us, and invite us to acknowledge the truth of our experiences.


This eclipse is influenced by the South Node in Libra, bringing themes of release, closure, and letting go of dynamics that have kept us out of alignment. For the past year, the South Node in Libra has highlighted where we’ve sacrificed our true selves to keep the peace, striving for balance while quietly suppressing our own needs. In contrast, the North Node in Aries calls us to step into our own authority and power, to honor our individuality, and to build connections that are based on mutual respect.


The Story of Mia and Samuel: Healing from Emotional Injustice, A Path Toward Balance and Worth


Mia’s story is a powerful example of this theme of imbalance. For five years, she poured everything into her relationship with Samuel, believing that if she gave more of herself, he would eventually meet her halfway. Yet, every time she tried to express her needs or share her vulnerability, Samuel would withdraw. He would retreat behind a wall of emotional distance, deflecting her requests with cold rationality or accusations of being too demanding. Mia’s desire to be chosen and appreciated kept her trapped, overextending herself in an effort to prove she was worthy of his love.


Samuel, on the other hand, saw Mia’s care and emotional support not as something to reciprocate, but as something to be controlled. His own fear of emotional entanglement made him pull away whenever she reached out for connection. He wasn’t responding to Mia’s needs — he was reacting to his own fears of inadequacy and vulnerability. Their relationship wasn’t just one of love and companionship; it had become a reflection of their deepest insecurities, with each holding onto roles that mirrored their shadows: Mia, the over-giver afraid of abandonment, and Samuel, the emotionally distant partner afraid of losing control.


Recognizing the Patterns: Where is the imbalance?


This eclipse, like the dynamic between Mia and Samuel, reflects a need to confront the truth of where you invested your energy. It’s not about sudden endings or grand revelations. It’s about seeing the reality of patterns that have been negatively affecting our health; relationships where the balance of giving and receiving has been skewed; commitments that pull more from us than they return; or situations that have left us feeling unseen and undervalued, or worse abused.


For Mia, the eclipse mirrors the slow unraveling of her hope that things would change if she just tried a little harder, if she waited a little longer or sacrificed once more her dignity and self worth. It’s not that the eclipse causes her to decide, but that it reflects the point where she can no longer ignore the imbalance. The scales have tipped too far. The emotional costs of staying are now clearer than the fears of leaving. This is not about walking away in anger or resentment; it’s about quietly choosing to honor her worth and acknowledging the toll that over-giving and self sacrificing has taken on her spirit.


A Path Toward Healing: Integrating the Shadows


For anyone in a similar situation, this eclipse is a mirror showing where you’ve been sacrificing yourself for the sake of maintaining harmony or avoiding conflict. It’s a call to recognize your own shadow patterns: over-giving to seek validation, staying silent to avoid rejection, or making yourself small to keep someone else comfortable. It asks, What are you no longer willing to participate in? What is draining your energy rather than enriching it? What can’t you afford to lose anymore?


This is a time to confront the hidden dynamics that have held you stuck or prisoner — not from a place of (self) blame, but from a place of understanding and compassion. What keeps you tied to unhealthy patterns? What fears are beneath your need to keep giving, even when you feel depleted, humiliated, betrayed? This eclipse, like Mia’s story, invites a quiet but firm release, a decision to no longer invest in what doesn’t honor your worth.


Reclaiming Your Power and Worth


As Venus, the ruler of this eclipse, aligns harmoniously with Mars and Saturn, there is a promise of resolution and healing. It’s not about a dramatic ending or a triumphant new beginning. It’s about reclaiming your power, understanding that your worth isn’t tied to what you give, and allowing space for relationships that offer reciprocity and respect.


For Mia, letting go isn’t about cutting ties or closing the door forever — it’s about letting herself step back, breathe, and recognize that her energy is valuable. It’s about choosing herself, not as a reaction to Samuel’s indifference, but as a natural acknowledgment of her own needs and boundaries. As she releases the weight of trying to keep the relationship afloat, she’s opening space for something new — something more balanced, more respectful, and more life-affirming.


This eclipse marks a quiet but profound shift. It’s not about fixing what’s broken but about recognizing what can no longer be sustained. As you navigate this time, ask yourself: Where have I been giving more than I receive? What can I release to create space for a more aligned and authentic version of myself? Trust that letting go is not an end — it’s the beginning of reclaiming your true value and purpose.


 

If any of this feels familiar and you’re tired of facing it alone, let’s take the next step together.

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